In misguided efforts to avoid temporary discomfort and pain, we disregard the long-term destructive impact our choices will have on our lives—and end up avoiding our own healing.
By not recognizing red flags, we can find ourselves acting on thoughts, making choices, and living in feelings that lead us away from our walk with Christ.
Boundaries became my saving grace. Mostly, I put them in place to stop myself from getting involved in things that were beyond my ability to control— like other people‘s choices.
As most of us already know, communicating isn’t always as easy as taking turns while we calmly speak and listen to each other.
When we remove ourselves from a toxic situation, it is for self-preservation —not punishing the other person. So, before you initiate the No Contact Rule, make sure that you’re doing it for the right reasons.
After a lot of self-help books and many therapy sessions, I realized that I wasn’t emotionally available to myself. In fact, I often invalidated or minimized my own feelings.
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